Strip Anxiety Of Its Power – Right NOW

It is estimated that nearly 40 million people in the United States suffer from moderate to severe anxiety. What most sufferers don’t realize is that the true nature and root of their anxiety symptoms is something that can be very easy to change, without the need for symptom-clouding medications or counseling. Anxiety is a subconscious fear of the FUTURE. This may be a fear of the distant future or the immediate future- it all depends on your subconscious programming. When a fear of any kind is triggered, it is the job of the subconscious part of our minds to signal you to either fight or run away from that fear. You may know this as the “fight or flight” reaction. The anxiety attack reaction that you describe happens when the subconscious fear and the conscious reality collide. The conscious part of the mind, that reasons and takes in information, is aware that there is no immediate danger. However, the subconscious part of the mind, that has catalogued the trigger event as a threat, has been alerted and has unleashed all the chemicals and bodily reactions you will need to fight or flee.  This combination creates a war, of sorts, within your body and mind that can have seriously debilitating effects. The key is to find the trigger and reframe it in a way that the subconscious will no longer view it as a threat. Anxiety is a fear of something happening in the future based on either: A past event that is similar to the trigger event in some way. The past event is likely to be something that... read more

Dealing With Family Dysfunction

For some, the thought of spending time with family during the holidays, or really anytime during the year, is something to look forward to. For others, the mere thought makes you want to cringe and pray for an illness that will give you an excuse to stay away. Praying for illness may seem a bit extreme to some but I’ve been in that frame of mind on a few occasions when the reality of having to spend time with the in-laws loomed large on my horizon. Granted, that was before I became more “enlightened”, received my mind, body wellness degree and stripped off all of my own emotional baggage, but still, I know the feeling. And it ain’t good. Whatever the reality is for you, here are some tips for dealing with family dysfunction: 1.      The Problem:  Expectations Any time you get a group of people together there is a certain level of expectation that comes with it. We all want to enjoy our holidays and have a good time when we get together- but the definition of what that means and looks like is unique to each person. Get all those expectations together in one place and it creates a giant bowl of expectation soup that leaves a large risk for disappointment. When families end up bickering or fighting during the holidays, it’s often because of this one key element. The Solution: Let Go Of Expectations You can’t control their actions but you can master your own. No matter what your past experience with your family, good or bad, just let it go. Refuse to add your expectations to the... read more

Leap Out of Your Comfort Zone

Sure, comfort is nice but as my grandmother used to say: “Too much of a good thing is never a good thing”. In the case of living too much in your comfort zone, this adage is certainly true. The result of staying in your comfort zone will be a drab and boring existence that holds you back from experiencing the joy, spontaneity and possibilities that a life lived outside of your comfort zone can offer. Have you gotten too comfortable with your daily life? Maybe you notice time going by too fast or too slow? Do your days seem to bleed together? Or maybe your routines have become so, well, routine that you feel like you’re just going through the motions every day? Are you having trouble sleeping- either sleeping too much or not enough? Do you feel like life is passing you by or just feel bored and uninspired? If you answered “YES” to any of these questions, you may be firmly entrenched in your own comfort zone. So, how did you get there? Building firm walls inside your comfort zone takes time and effort. Or, more to the point, a lack of effort and a LOT of fear. Slowly, over time, you have blocked yourself from various experiences due to a fear that is tied to a past experience. Fear of rejection – fear of change or something new– fear of disappointment – fear of failure – fear of success – fear of meeting new people – fear of having to learn or do something new. A FEAR of discomfort. At the root of all of these... read more

Elusive Search For Happiness

Want to LISTEN to this article? We recently asked 100 people to list the top 5 things that they wanted more of in their life and discovered an overwhelming trend within those results. “Happiness” made the list for 97 of the 100 people surveyed and was a response shared by more people in the survey than any other response. What is interesting is that when some of those people were probed farther on the issue of happiness, they found it very difficult to articulate exactly WHAT happiness is to them and HOW it would appear in their life. This poses a serious dilemma and may be the reason that happiness seems to be eluding those in the survey and, according to survey results, many of you. There seems to be a collective consciousness or belief system in our society that we should be happy all of the time. Without clarification of exactly what happiness is, this goal is nearly impossible to achieve and people can make themselves miserable in its pursuit. The first misconception about happiness is that it can be secured from the “outside”, meaning that it can come from money, material possessions or even from other people. When we believe that our feelings of happiness come from circumstances “outside” of us, it puts our emotional well-being in a constant state of turmoil. In the back of our minds, there is a nagging and ever-present fear surrounding this kind of thinking. The fear of what will happen if we don’t have or achieve those outside things or if, for some reason, we have those things and we suddenly... read more

Releasing Guilt: Giving Yourself a Clean Slate

We have all experienced the feeling of guilt at some time in our lives. Guilt can seem to be imposed on us from a multitude of sources: friends, family, co-workers and bosses. The list goes on. However, the reality is that the crippling and destructive feelings of guilt aren’t dumped on us by others, they are actually generated from within ourselves. Most people believe that guilt is simply a single emotion in the human spectrum of emotions. If that were the case, guilt wouldn’t be nearly as powerful as it is. The truth, is that guilt is often the byproduct of the combination of an emotion such as anger, hurt, sadness or fear and an action or lack of an action. You see, guilt doesn’t exist until you DO or DON’T DO something specific. For example: You may feel a lot of guilt if you get very angry and say or do hurtful things to someone. In this case, guilt is a residual effect of the emotion of anger and the act of being hurtful to someone else. Another example:  A family member does or says something that hurts your feelings. As a result, you decide to skip their birthday party or special event. This makes you feel guilty for not attending. In this case, guilt is the compounded effect of the emotion of hurt and lack of action of attending the birthday party. As a result, guilt is often something we carry with us for long periods of time and it can, in some cases, create an entire false narrative about how we view ourselves and others. Why?... read more